Existing together is what we’re doing here.

On the planet I mean. Seeing that phrase helps me remember something important every time. It helps me remember: this is all we’re doing, we’re just existing together, it’s very simple and beautiful and important. It’s also very complex and immense.

Existing together.

Another way to describe Existing Together: a business run by Sarah Fontaine, me. I offer astrology readings, monthly parenting circles, and writing. This is the homepage of the website for this business. Here, I offer things for money that I can do, the things that feel like the best of what I can offer other beings on the planet. I have a business doing this because I’m over forty and I don’t have time to do something else for money and then also do this. So making money is a part of this operation. While at the same time I aspire to and look for ways to transgress and create and exchange and relate beyond the white patriarchal violence that is capitalism.

Here’s a “bio” kind of thing if you want to read more!

Probably just like you, I find it so hard to describe what I’ve done, what I do, etc, so that you can decide whether to trust me in your inbox, or with your birth chart. The kind of work I do is too vulnerable and intimate to do any convincing here, if that makes sense. I’m here to tell the truth about myself as well as I can, so that you can decide if we’re a good fit. I’m also resistant to reinforcing expertise culture because I find myself and so many of my clients are unlearning the tendency to overly rely on “experts.” And, the reason I even offer these things at all is because I have been deeply helped by similar kinds of healing arts from others, and I think we need reminds of our true nature (which is just: nature) in all sorts of different forms. This is the form I can offer, and so I do.

I try to earn trust with my writing, mostly, but just to add: I’ve been a student of astrology, meditation, and investigating the fabric of the universe for 25 years. I have been a book publisher, a Grand Canyon backpacking guide, a long-distance bike rider, a farmer, an (abolitionist) prison justice advocate and legal aid, a nanny, a day care owner, a teacher, among other things. I rely on various mentors and support people and other species and lands to keep me in check, keep me learning, keep me open and as humble and clear-sighted as possible. This is beyond essential in the vulnerable and problem-laden realm of spirituality and healing arts. One of those people and places is my meditation teacher in the Theravadan Buddhist tradition, Erin Treat.

If I had to make a resume at this point, the first thing on it would be: being a parent. That’s the most recent development in my life that makes me feel the most humbled and strangely, the most qualified to work with you in this way. Nothing has stretched me and opened my heart more than this, which are the kinds of things that I think help make me better at this job.

I’m a white person and I think about how I might doula the death of whiteness with others, a lot. Here’s an essay I wrote to remind myself of some things I want to remember about how I might practice this. I’m sharing it here in case it is of use to you as well.

I’m a cis person and I use the pronouns she/her. I don’t really feel “cis” in the sense that I’m not sure what category could possibly fully fit? As in I’m suspicious of my own preoccupation with identity and am interested in less entrenchment in it, not more. And yet, I call myself cis importantly as a way to name what remains out of my view because of this default category I have fit into for a lot of my life. I’m explicitly for and inspired by the ways that nonbinary and trans people are guiding us all toward more gender expansiveness, fluidity, freedom.

A few years back, a very generous writer wrote this piece about how astrology and tarot are becoming more popular, and talked about what it was like to get a reading with me, then interviewed me for it, which you can read here.